We should avoid the kinds of places where ungodly things are the norm.We need not be in seedy nightclubs or in bars or in decidedly vulgar movies.Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.The New Testament clearly teaches that sex outside of marriage is sinful (1 Corinthians 6:9-11,18-20; Hebrews 13:4). Since that is true, Christians who date will want to choose activities in public places where conversations and healthy activities can be carried on without becoming involved in too much intimacy.Keep the lust in check and the touching to a minimum (Matthew -29). Since dating may eventually lead to marriage, we probably should not begin dating too early or date one person too long, unless we are ready to commit to a lifetime relationship.But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.I had to ask myself, “Is he really on the same page as me when it comes to my Christian faith?
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.Next, since the Scriptures teach us that it is important to form our primary relationships with people who will help us spiritually, we should date people who want to do the will of God.Since we eventually marry someone we date, we should not date those who lack Christian values (2 Corinthians ff)..First of all, people who date should not have sex until they marry.While it is normal and natural to be attracted to someone of the opposite sex, we are called by God to keep those urges under control until we commit to someone in marriage.